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June 1, 2019March 22, 2018

Understanding the Auditory Relating Style

Different people have different styles of relating to others.

There are three identified styles of relating and auditory relating is one of these.

The other two are visual and kinesthetic.

The auditory relating style refers to those people who respond to and are stimulated by what they hear.

Auditory persons learn more effectively by hearing rather than by seeing.

Using audio, as well as reading aloud, is a great way to teach the auditory oriented person.

The auditory oriented person best responds to expressions of love in the form of words of affirmation and compliments.

The best gifts for an auditory person are:

Music
Audio books
Concerts
Anything that involves the use of their hearing sense

Auditory Relating in Relationships

The auditory person loves the sound of their voice! He can sit and chat for hours and he feels loved when this happens.

Auditory people are sensitive to another’s tone of voice and can be easily offended when given criticism or correction.

Therefore, using softer tones and beginning criticism or correction with positive affirmations is the best way to communicate with auditory people.

Auditory Relating and Conflict

An auditory person processes issues by talking things through; unless it’s something big, then they usually prefer quiet time.

In addition, the auditory person likes to have the last word and usually gets it.

Plus, they tend to be good at debating and getting others to talk as well.

Auditory persons are sensitive to the sounds of nature and often find peace when walking through the woods, by a crackling fire or strolling by a running river.

Add these types of activities to a great conversation and you’re speaking their love language.

The easiest way to identify an auditory oriented person is by listening to their expressions. They often use phrases like:

“Hear me out.”

“Listen to what I’m saying.”

“I didn’t hear that clearly.”

“We need to talk.”

“I can tell by your tone…”

Tips for Working with an Auditory Oriented Person

If your boss is an auditory oriented person, she’ll expect you to communicate through meetings, instead of email or memos.

She may even find email or memos to be offensive or less meaningful than a phone call or meeting.

In addition, if you need to address a problem or issue, you will want to begin the conversation with positive affirmations about what you like about a person or the project before you get into the issue.

An auditory person will then be more open to receiving your ideas and won’t be so quick to put up any walls.

Auditory oriented people tend to be more sensitive to breathing sounds, sighs and grunts, and often read into these noises as if something’s wrong.

If you’re a heavy sigh-er, for instance, you may often be asked, “What’s wrong?” every time you take a deep breath.

Once you communicate to the sensitive person that nothing’s wrong, eventually they’ll get used to your breathing sounds.

Communicating to an Auditory Type Person

Once you learn how to identify an auditory person, relating to them will be easier.

Here are the main points to remember once you’ve determined you’re dealing with a person who relates via sound:

Be sensitive when speaking.

Use appropriate tones of voice.

Begin criticism or correction with positive affirmations.

In addition, they like to hear compliments and the words “I love you” repeatedly. These are things the auditory person never tires of.

In fact, if you don’t compliment them or say “I love you” often enough, the auditory person may begin to feel unloved.

If you’re in a marriage with an auditory type person and they are constantly saying, “You don’t love me” or “You never say you love me,” you’re probably not speaking their love language.

To help with communication and make them feel loved, speak adorning words more frequently.

Communication is a lot easier when we know and understand our loved ones relating style, whether it is auditory, visual or kinesthetic.

Now that you can identify an auditory oriented person, you will be able to express your love for them easier and relate to them using their love language.

How do you feel about being around people who are auditory learners?

How easy or difficult is it for you to adjust to them?

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May 31, 2019March 22, 2018

Understanding the Kinesthetic Relating Style

There are three relating styles: kinesthetic, visual, and auditory.

Kinesthetic oriented people respond to touch and act on how they feel.

Kinesthetic people like to engage in affectionate rough housing, as well as being held for long periods of time.

Kinesthetic persons often use terms such as these in conversation:

“I just felt as if…”

“I’ll handle it.”

“I feel like we really connected.”

“Take it easy.”

Physical contact and feelings are their primary love language.

Kinesthetic people often feel overwhelmed or feel picked on in a verbal conflict.

When communicating with a kinesthetic oriented person, a soft touch on the arm means you care, you’re interested, and you’re listening.

Often the kinesthetic person will touch you as they are speaking as well.

In the work field, a handshake is often offered and expected by a kinesthetic person.

Not only is a handshake proper and a sign of respect to the kinesthetic person, but it is also a personal connection.

In addition, they may put their arm around your shoulders while walking and talking. This is how they communicate and connect.

Kinesthetic people are hard to motivate, however, because they often can’t get past how they’re feeling in the moment.

They are very emotionally driven and often let their emotions control their actions.

Kinesthetic oriented persons also react to gut instincts and tend not to base decisions on reason or logic.

Kinesthetic Relating in Love Relationships

In a relationship with a kinesthetic oriented person, if you don’t touch them often, they may not feel loved by you.

They may feel rejected and not even know why.

If your loved one is saying things like, “You never touch me,” or “You never cuddle with me anymore,” their love tank may be empty.

Fill it up with some meaningful and long snuggles on the couch, a big bear hug or a nice back massage.

Then keep their hearts filled by giving them the touching, hugging, and snuggling they are thirsting for.

Understanding the Three Different Relating Styles

It’s important in all relationships, including your spouse, children, siblings, friends or co-workers, to understand the different relating styles, as well as how to communicate effectively using them.

Visual

For the visually oriented person, using picture words is the best way to communicate.

The best gifts for the visually oriented person are tangible gifts, or one’s they can actually “see” such as:

Books
Cards or notes
Flowers

When speaking to the visually oriented person, look them directly in the eye and expect to be “examined” by them as well.

Be aware of your body language and facial expressions, as they’ll be determining if they trust what you’re saying based on those two elements.

Auditory

For the auditory oriented person, communicating in soft tones and positive affirmations says you care and are interested in them.

The best gifts for the auditory oriented person are:

Music
Audio books
Concerts

Verbal communication is very important to the auditory oriented person.

They process issues or problems by talking them out. If the auditory oriented person doesn’t hear the words “I love you” frequently enough, they may not feel loved.

How to Tell Which Type of Person You’re Dealing With

Knowing how to determine someone’s relating style is important and can usually be determined in the first few minutes after meeting for the first time.

If the person looks you directly in the eye or seems to “look you up and down,” they’re visual.

If they do most of the talking right away, they’re most likely an auditory type of person.

If they touch you on the arm or reach for a handshake immediately, they’re kinesthetic.

Just knowing these few characteristics will help you strengthen your current relationships and start off on the right foot when getting to know someone new.

How can you better communicate with someone who is a kinesthetic learner?

How can this help you have a better relationship with that person?

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May 30, 2019March 22, 2018

Understanding the Visual Relating Style

The visual style is one of three types of relating styles.

The other two are auditory and kinesthetic.

Visual relating refers to those persons who are “visual” in their thinking.

Understanding how a visual person thinks and “sees” will help you communicate more effectively when interacting with others in relationships.

Visual oriented people often use expressions such as:

“I see.”

“It seems clear.”

“Do you see my point?

“I can see right through you.”

They also tend to be more uptight, high-strung, and very detail oriented.

The visual oriented person will often get lost in thoughts and daydreams.

Some examples of gifts and appreciated expressions of love for visually oriented people are:

Flowers
Games
Books
Framed Photos
Cards and Letters

When talking with a visually oriented person, using vivid words is the best way to communicate with them.

If you can draw a picture with your words, using lots of detail, you will be able to more closely identify with those who are more visually oriented.

Body Language

A visual person will also pay close attention to your body language.

They’ll notice your eye movements, hand gestures, posture and facial expressions and will read into those things to determine if they trust what you’re saying or not.

Words themselves probably won’t make much difference, but your body language and actions says it all to the visually oriented person.

Since visually oriented persons rely on their visual perception so much, they may tend to judge a book by its cover, so to speak.

The way one dresses or the car a person drives will say a lot to the visually oriented person.

Visual people may also be uneasy around people who build up a facade because they can’t see the real person inside or behind the mask.

Tips for Speaking to a Visual Type Person

1. When speaking to the visually oriented, look directly into their eyes and use positive body language.

Don’t cross your arms or appear distracted, as this will communicate to them that you’re focus isn’t on them or that you’re not really paying attention.

Another way to communicate positively is to nod your head, as if saying yes while they are speaking.

This shows that you’re actively listening and that you’re interested in what they’re saying.

On the other hand, when you’re having a conversation with a visually oriented person, you may feel as if you’re being examined because their eyes will move around, observing all the details of your hair, teeth, clothing and jewelry.

They may even stop you in conversation to give you a compliment about what you’re wearing or the way you’re hair is styled.

2. If your boss is visual-oriented, an organized office or workspace is probably very important to him or her.

Therefore, it’s important for you to keep your workspace neat and orderly to avoid conflict.

They may also be very picky about dress and expect their employees to dress professionally at all times.

Understanding Visually Oriented People

The visual person tends to like video games, computers, and television. Often they’re artistic, crafty, and creative thinkers.

They tend to be able to visualize the outcome of a decision and may tend to over analyze situations.

When building relationships, determining a person’s relating style is probably the first thing you should do so you can understand where they’re coming from and how they will respond.

Now that you’re equipped with the knowledge of how a visual person communicates, you will be able to strengthen your relationships both personally and professionally.

How often do you encounter people who learn best by visualizing or seeing things?

How have you been a visual learner at one point in your life?

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February 22, 2019March 12, 2018

Don’t waste time learning the “tricks of the trade.” Instead, learn the trade. – H. Jackson Brown

October 31, 2018February 16, 2018

I am capable of learning new things in all aspects of my life.

Every area of my life offers room for improvement.

I am where I am today because I have opened myself up to betterment and have embraced the opportunities to learn and grow.

I welcome new things into my life because everything I learn serves to make me a better person.

I let go of the fear that I am unable to learn because I know I am capable of learning and applying newfound knowledge to my life.

All around me are opportunities to learn. I am confident in my abilities to take advantage of these opportunities and apply new ideas to my life.

When I learn unfavorable things about myself, such as my tendency to procrastinate, I am able to accept this knowledge and implement plans to manage them.

I improve my life and enjoy greater success by learning new things.

Today I will open my mind to new possibilities and actively seek fresh ideas.

I will also strive to apply my newfound knowledge to my life to make me a better person.

I will increase my perception of the world around me and incorporate new ideas into my plans.

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How can you apply these lessons to your life to better yourself?

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June 19, 2018January 8, 2018

Each day I am learning new things.

With every new day I find something new to discover and learn.

I learn about the world around me and the world farther from me.

Sometimes it is not the things that I learn outside of me that excite me but the things I learn within.

When I read, watch the news, or seek out new opportunities, I learn new things.

I talk to others and fully listen when they are speaking and I learn from their daily experiences as well.

Each day is unique and I experience things in a new way.

Each day is an opportunity to learn something new about myself.

I learn that I can be compassionate. I learn that I am capable of achieving whatever I put my mind to.

I am a fascinating, capable person and there is much for me to learn about myself.

I learn something new each day because I am present and fully pay attention to the things that surround me.

I pay full attention to the feelings, thoughts and experiences within me and thus I learn about myself.

Every day is new and offers boundless opportunities to experience and learn.

I choose to begin each day with an open mind that is ready to understand.

Today I will take full advantage of each opportunity to discover and learn.

I will learn about myself as well as learn about the things in the world around me.

When I am fully present in my day, I am able to learn and understand many things.

How have you opened your mind to all of your opportunities to learn today?

What was today’s greatest lesson?

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November 28, 2017

8 Ways to Foster a Joy of Learning in Your Children

When you foster the love of learning in your children, you set them up for a lifetime of happiness and success.

Children are born with a drive to learn and explore the world around them, and parents have the ability to nudge them in the direction of continuous learning.

Your ultimate goal as a parent should be to discover your child’s preferred method of learning.

You can do this by encouraging them to pursue hobbies that they find exciting and enriching.

You also need to maintain the wisdom to know when your children might need an extra push in a certain area or whether they need to change their course entirely.

Consider some of these simple strategies to foster a joy of learning:

1. Reading Stories. Your children are never too young to enjoy a story. Start reading to them when they’re babies and you’ll foster a lifetime of love for the subject.

When it comes to reading, as long as they keep practicing the skill they’ll keep getting better at it.

Encourage your children to read more, regardless of their age or topic of interest, as long as it’s age-appropriate.

2. Get Excited About New Things. It’ll help if you maintain a certain excitement about the things your child discovers.

When they’re babies, cheer when they learn to walk or roll over. Cheer as they learn to ride bikes.

Continue to show excitement every time they start something new.

3. Be Inspired Yourself. It’s important to remain inspired and continue to go after your own wants and dreams.

In life you never stop learning. If your children see your personal love of learning, they’ll be inspired, too.

4. Give Your Child a Choice. While you don’t have to allow your child to do whatever they want, you can still give them a choice in what they’d like to pursue.

When children have a choice, they feel like what they think makes a real difference, and it does! Let them choose their own books, hobbies, and so on.

5. Stay Involved with School. Make sure you stay on top of the topics that your children are learning in school.

You kids will like the attention and they’ll appreciate that you’re involved in their life.

You can go over assignments at home or you can even have frequent meetings with your child’s teachers.

6. Field Trips. Maybe your children will be scheduled to go on field trips with their school.

If not, you can always create your own field trips for afternoons and weekends. Schedule field trips that pertain to your child’s personal interests.

They will certainly be inspired to learn more and you’ll still be personally involved in their lives.

7. Show Your Support. It’s always important to show your children support no matter what.

Even if they’ve chosen a subject to pursue that you don’t enjoy, as long as it’s appropriate, it’s important to be there for your child.

If they suspect that you’re unhappy with their personal decisions, they may be less likely to continue with their studies.

8. Provide Resources. While you may not always have a great deal of cash available for your children’s hobbies, it’s a good idea to provide them with the necessary resources to allow them to fully pursue their interests.

When they’re toddlers and young children, it can mean just providing them educational and age appropriate toys.

It may be more of a financial burden when they’re older because you may need to invest in advanced training or camps.

You really only want what’s best for your children.

You’ll soon realize that as long as you remain loving and accepting, your children will continue to come to you for guidance and advice.

When you start learning with them while they’re young, fostering a love of learning will come naturally.

What is your child’s attitude towards learning?

Which among the items on the list above would be most useful for your child?

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